In each family there is a male (husband) and female (wife); when there are children, there is a mother and father. In that family, the Lord has set forth His structure that makes that family work successfully as a unit. The father is the head of his family, while the mother shapes the world with the raising of the children. When this family unit is altered to something other than the Lord’s structure, dysfunction begins to occur.
In the remainder of this bulletin article, I want to focus attention on how the male / husband / father should lead. We will consider Psalm 1:1-3 as our point of reference.
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful (Psalm 1:1, KJV). By the Lord, the godly man is blessed, because a godly man has no interest in taking the counsel of those who are wicked and live life according to a so-called wisdom that has origin in man. This is important to remember because we live in a world that throws around counsel like snow flies in the winter. Sometimes the snow sticks to the ground!
Not only will the godly man have no interest in counsel that belongs to this world, but he will have his delight in something greater than this world. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night (1:2). Think about what is being said here. The godly man meditates, that is, he spends time understanding the Lord’s way and path for his life. Paul wrote in Romans 8:28, And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, even to them that are called according to his purpose. What is that which “work together for good”? This pertains to one’s salvation, as v. 29 illustrates; it does have reference to something a person experiences in life that might be interpreted as “good.”
As the man is the head of the family, where he goes, the family goes. Who should be leading the man of the house, but the Lord! Choosing this approach to life, the godly man is compared to that which has nourishment. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper (1:3). Reflect on how drought can affect our surroundings. With the summer months the temperature rises, the rain is little, the grass turns brown, the crop in the field weathers the lack of rain for a little while, but it, too, begins to wither; the cattle have less food, prices rise, on and on. If one drifts away from the Lord, then drought sets in, nourishment is lacking, and the foliage of the tree begins to wither.
The godly man makes a powerful impression on his family. Sadly, the ungodly man does as well. It’s a challenge to be the kind of people we are called upon to be, but, as I speak to the men, we are to be godly men taught by the Lord so we can lead our families. How well are you doing?