One of the great laments saints find in the Lord’s church is in relation to those who are spiritually weak, immature, temperamental and childish in thinking. This manifests itself when one is offended or, said differently, when one takes umbrage at something said or done; this is not necessarily related to something sinful. If offended, as the little boy says to his friends or associates, “I am taking my ball and going home. I am done with you!” In a church-setting context this translates into one’s visible presence being removed, and all things materially related taken away.
“I’ll show you!”
“If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small” (Prov. 24:10, ESV).
In part, what the offended one is hoping for is that someone will make an appeal, a begging appeal to come back and be with the local assembly. Whatever spiritual failings or psychological weakness there might be in the offended one, the One truly troubled in the Lord.
One’s physical contribution to the work of the saints, in a local setting, is crucial, but not so crucial the Lord’s work will stop or be compromised. I have heard (never experienced) from others there is a large contributor in the congregation so “let us not make them mad or upset” lest they take their ball and go home. Really? Is this the right and godly approach to some issue that needs to be addressed? It is not. If one is so easily offended when the truth is spoken, then the problem is not in the one who spoke the truth, but in the one easily offended.
“Be practical, Ron!” Being practical is very important, but not at the expense of what is right and godly. As one brother said years ago, sometimes growth comes from purging. RT